Here in the US, we have a society that dictates that every minute should be active. We have to fill our lives with appointments, our calendars with schedules, “manage our time”, and the list could continue. We fill our moments with screen time in its varying forms. So much so that we as individuals can’t remember a time when there wasn’t something that “had to be done.” This is our modern challenge.
So, join with me on a bit of a thought experiment. When was the last time you, as an individual, sat quietly and did nothing for 60 seconds? I do a pre-professional workshop each year with college freshmen. The goal of the workshop is to help students reflect on the skills and experiences that will make them more marketable and ultimately successful beyond the designated coursework for their degrees. My “ice breaker” is an exercise that first requires them to envision their position in 4 years, they have just landed their first post-graduation job, and they are at an introductory cocktail party. They are paired with another “new” employee and need to describe how they got to this position. I introduce the exercise, and then I have them stand up and pair up with someone they don’t know. The person that they are paired with will have to introduce you to the group. This is a typical icebreaker-type scenario. But here is my twist. I have them stand quietly for five minutes to develop their vision of how they will get to that point 4 years from now. It may not sound like much. But, having done this exercise for several years, here is what you would observe: the fidgeting begins at about 45 seconds, the awkward glances at about 90 seconds in, and the silence breaks at about 2 minutes, and you have to remind them that they need to be quiet so that others can think. Ultimately, most cannot do it; they can’t stop and think, imagine, or reflect quietly for 5 minutes. It is too much.
Yet, our science and our society tell us that we need that time, that time of reflection, that downtime. We see it in learning studies, in leadership studies, and in nature. To grow, we have to be willing to stop and rest. We need the quiet “dwell time,” or what psychologists call latency. We need to reflect, we need the quiet, we need the pause.
If you have been following social media and finally mainstream media, you may have come across the “Walk for Peace.” A group of Monks walked from Ft. Worth, Texas, to Washington, DC. If you watched what happened, it was truly fascinating. First, people tied all kinds of different meanings and scenarios to the walk. Then, as individuals realized that this group was simply following their path, their intent, and their demonstration that what the world needed was peace and a simple message, things changed. The crowds came, but they were quiet. People stopped, they paused. People began to understand that each individual needs that quiet time. It may be an active quiet like walking. But it is quiet, without the “noise” of our society, i.e., constant need for input from something outside of our natural environment.
What might seem counterintuitive in our fast-paced, always-on-the-go society, there is a way to find that “quiet” time. While the Monks were walking, I was personally working with the other end of the spectrum, engaging with the fast-paced changes we are encountering with our electronic, or “smart” assistants. Artificial Intelligence (AI) has rapidly become part of our everyday lives. It is in our usual tools, our wordprocessors, as part of our “smart” feeds for television, our email, our social media, and the list can continue. Yet, it can also help us find the pauses, the quiet time, the time for reflection, and even help us focus our jumbled-up thoughts into a reflection. My AI Assistant has provided me with ways to free up my time, transcribing meeting minutes, providing summaries, and more. It saves me several hours per week just by providing typing support. Since ChatGPT was “released” in November 2022, our lives have been fundamentally different, whether or not you personally have noticed it. I made a conscious decision to learn about the technology because I understood it would be part of our lives. Yet, I have adapted it into my workflows so that I can pause and reflect. I have seen an increase in the time I can spend on slow things, like taking two days to make a lovely loaf of bread or a slow-cooked pork roast. I can go on a “media” free walk and observe the stars or listen to the birds. I feel less stressed, because I have an assistant who can help me find minutes in the day and help me organize. It is a case where the “new” world is enabling the “slow” world. And, I am finding a lot of peace in that.
